Many a times parents come across and share, SV, during our days we use to do this and that, but nowadays, kids do not listen to us, and in listening and not listening, sometime parents try to push their kids for dreams and desires which they were unable to fulfill or had failed or to pursue their own path of success, unnecessary expectations which not only put kid soft mind under chaos but also under unwanted and unduly pressure,
No doubt, parents always think for the happiness of their kids and keep on worrying about their good future, for the same worry and thought process, they try to create and decide the path for their kids by self,
The path on which parents have walked, the pebbles and stones they have come across on the way, the shadow and sun they have witnessed, they want their kids to walk the same path as they have and known by them, no doubt, out of love and care it is a very noble thought process,
Have you ever tried to ponder and introspect on three eternal questions:
Isn't the fact that with time the path and course of path changes, doesn't the new challenges are thrown up with time across our journey, so how can our past experiences be helpful and beneficial to the new generation,
Isn't it that every kid is a image of their parents, the values are given by parents but the abilities or talent within are bestowed as God gift, so the path on which parents have achieved success, is it mandatory that kids will also achieve same and find bliss, as a parent can you be sure of it,
Ain't the new challenges and struggles not beneficial to the kids, every new question opens the door for new answer, so why should we keep our kids away from new challenges, questions and struggle, ponder, is this helpful or loss to them,
Means, as parents we should focus on building their character and values rather focusing too much on building their future through us, and we should be able to equip them with adequate knowledge and confidence to face those new struggles, questions and challenges, this equipping and boosting their morale will be more helpful and beneficial for them to walk on the path with faith in their abilities and nurturing they have received,
I have witnessed many examples around me and come across everyday, kids going under depression or suffering from sudden body or mental illness, I have even seen kids being topper at studies till certain grades or classes and then suddenly they are lost souls, why, because of the huge amount of expectations and pressure from parents to perform and prove,
With time journey changes, although foundation remains same, we should use that particular foundation to build pillars of tomorrow by using knowledge, confidence, love and care as bricks to the arriving future,
Think over sometime.. and try to get answers,
@gary payne, true, we should keep a holistic approach and be the light wherever darkness prevails and sometime we should be ready to reach out and support even if they are in traveling in dark and need not our support, most of the time we assume they can do, but sometime this attitude of ours also make them lonely, be a witness and keep sharing love and care, thank you my dear friend always for being a support to the world around and enlightening through your ripples, stay blessed
@ritu mishra we can always help them to understand by giving a basket of options and understanding them, most of the times, parents subconsciously start pushing kids for their unfulfilled dreams and desires, which do create unduly pressure and kids tend to succumb to it,being a soft and fragile minds, rather we should appreciate them, nurture them with love and care and help them by enlightening them of life path, thank you for your profound wisdom and insight, be blessed always
Prepare the child for the road not the road for the child. Its there right to travel there own path. Its your job to shine a light.
nice points to ponder about but SV our past experiences are meant to be a guiding light to tackle the new challenges, to suitably amend the future course of action of the new generation. Of course, the new generation may be the best judge of the path they undertake to tread upon, but as parents or mentors, enriched by our past experiences, we involuntarily take it upon ourselves to show them the right path if they are going astray